Tango Appassionata

[Saturday, January 16, 2010]

Gone But Not Forgotten

There were a large volume of phone calls, particularly those out of town earlier in the week. To add onto the strangeness, my parents also acted unusually suspiciously. Both me and my brother knew something was up. It wasn't until a few days later, they decided to break the news to us... My grandpa had passed away on the weekend. Some time midnight Sunday for us, Monday for them in China.

It was really all too sudden and unexpected. He fell down a few weeks back and had to be admitted to the hospital. They discovered that he was undernourished and wasn't eating well. We were working on getting him set up with those daily energy supplement shakes. It was reassuring to know he was at least in the comfort of his own home during his final moments.

It's frightening to realize I have no more grandparents.

3 comments:

Unknown | January 16, 2010 at 10:14 AM

You're a smart girl, so I won't offer advice that you yourself already know, nor will I broach this topic with you when that will do little to help you recover. However, since I expressed similar fear in my recent e-mail to you, you know where to find me if you want someone to discuss this with.

in passing | January 21, 2010 at 7:40 AM

To Candace

In passing.

I was there for you and if you wanted it, I would have continued being so.
But.
I didn't get the sense that I was wanted, not even at arm's length.
I must have done something wrong.
Or maybe I needed to withstand taciturn responses longer and with a greater consitution.

This place may have been my best window into your life where every where else I felt like a stranger being humored in passing.

From this place, I see that you may not be going through the best of times. Sorry for your loss.

All my best,
reach out
Even in passing.

C.C. | January 21, 2010 at 11:21 PM

@mysterious passerby:
I understand where you're coming from and why you would think that way. Thanks for being there even when it seemed like it was not wanted. I might have gotten to a point where I expected you to randomly pop out of nowhere as usual and I might have realized that I've begun to miss that. I won't deny that I am the one to blame for the communication deficiency... seems to be a personality thing, as conceited as that may sound.

I should have figured but then again, I thought that you'd have more persistence. ;) Anyway, I respect your choice and the conclusion you came to so we shall leave it at that.

Not sure if you'd come back to read this but thanks again, it has been fun (believe it or not).

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